Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Thoughts of a stressed out woman!
I can't believe how hard this transition has been. I know we are blessed to have had it go as well as it has, others have had harder, but it is sooooo stressful. (I had a moment of tears, real early this morning). Maya will not have anything to do with Tim, which means that I have to be the one to feed her, dress her, bath her, basically be the only one to touch her. She won't even let me put her down for a second. I try to put her between my legs as we play with this ball. She cries immediately and super hard. I look and feel like a reck. The only time I get to shower, brush my teeth or even comb my hair, is when she is sleeping. My back aches sooo bad I can't stand it! This hotel we are at has the crappiest mattresses. People told us before we came to China, that the beds are like cement. They weren't kidding! Tim has been great. Since he can't touch or hold Maya, he is the one that makes all the bottles, boils the water, washes the nipples, basically everything that can't be done with one hand. He has been the rock I have needed the last 2 nights! That's it for me, I'm exhausted. Tim knows how to post pictures, so I'm sure he will do that later. Thanks for listening! Love you.
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We are all very proud of you both! One of my favorite pictures is Tim holding Maya. She looks so content. She will soon forget about her old surroundings and want both of you. Ask God to help you thur this. He will! Remember, when you return,....your own bed, plenty of help and different food!
Love Marie... Thanks for sharing....
Grandma Says: Part of her problem may be that she is teething. May need some hard rubber to chew on!
Put it into her right hand. This may keep her away from her left wrist.
Gram S.
Sheila,
Try this, put her down and when she cries have Tim pick her up. Leave the room and take a shower, so she can't see you. She will still cry but now Tim has to comfort her. Babies learn by cryiing to get what they want.
Just a thought.
Love Mom Joan
Sheila,
Try this, put her down and when she cries have Tim pick her up. Leave the room and take a shower, so she can't see you. She will still cry but now Tim has to comfort her. Babies learn by crying to get what they want.
Just a thought.
Love Mom Joan
Girls love their mommies! She is obviously so comfortable with you Sheila. Babies also know when you are stressed and considering the whirlwind trip you all have been on - physically and emotionally; tears are definitely allowed. I still cry sometimes for no reason at all - one of the luxuries of being a parent. Things will get easier everyday, especially when you are back in your own surroundings. "Venting" is just part of life and it is a good thing to get it out. One day closer to coming home! Laura
Sheila, you are so entitled to be stressed out, especially in the situation you guys are in. Hang in there. We are all entitled to have a good cry, I know I've done it plenty of times. And still do. I agree with your mom, maybe try to leave the room for a short walk to the Lobby of the hotel and let Tim try to comfort her without you in her sight, so she can learn that he will also comfort her. It might take several times of doing this though. Just one more week and you'll be in your own home and bed!.......Sam
I understand your stress, it is very difficult to become a mom in another country, without the luxuries of home and help from family and friends. Hang in there, it's temporary, you will be home very soon and it will all feel like a distant dream.
I know that it is exhausting, but hang in there with Maya. Think of the major transition that she is making too. If she feels more comfortable with Sheila now, I would continue to let her be with Sheila. I know that it is back-breaking (I've been there) to carry her all the time and taking her everywhere, but it will benefit her in the end, and that's the goal. She will eventually be ok with Tim, but it's better not to push her too hard yet. Right now, she needs to just be made comfortable, and not be made to do anything that will make her upset. I would wait till you are home for a little bit before pushing Tim on her to hard. She needs to know that Sheila is not going anywhere, and than she will be able to branch out and except daddy better. Don't be discouraged Tim, she will be a daddy's girl, just give her some time! We are continuing to pray for you guys!
Kristen
Mom and Roy want you both to know we are here for you.Love you and so proud.Remember how Maya spent her 14 months of life-with only females and all that extra attention.Give it time.Stella sends her love and can hardly wait for the three of you to be home with her.Love you ,Mom
I agree with Mom Joan-love you,Mom Kathy
I agree with Mom Joan as well. As hard as it is, she will need to know that she cannot cry and get her way. This is a very stressful time for all of you, but you need to be firm in your disciplines. Do not hold her all of the time, if she cries, she cries. She will not fall apart and crumble. You need to deal with the crying and give Tim the opportunity to start his bonding. Don't forget you have a long flight home and Sheila, you can't be holding her all of the time. Break this habit now!! You need to be in control. I hate to sound like this-but it will be best for everyone in the long run. Love you guys and wish you only the best...Debbie
I can only imagine what the three of you are experiencing and going through. Thank you for bringing us along to China with you on this amazing adventure.
I think at this time Maya needs a constant amongst all the change that are going on around her. Tim, let Maya see that you are there with Sheila to love her. I'd suggest interacting with her while she's in Sheila's arms for now, but I wouldn't force anything at this point. There will be plenty of time for the two of you back home. Just be patient. Shelia, I'd be stressing too - your a mommy now! How exciting and oh so overwhelming :) The three of you are in my prayers. Enjoy the rest of your time there.
Love you all!
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